Why Is Religion An Abuse?

I don’t feel safe. Religionists I have known are anxious. All anxiety leads to hostility. To cause a physical feeling of unsafeness is abuse.

Physical harm, the one exception to ‘my thoughts cause my feelings’, is rampant among religionists, due to a lack of empathy. Often it is in the form of neglect. Routinely shunning any physical contact if I don’t measure up in some way that suits their purposes, often financial. Attempted abuse of my bank account is attempted physical harm.

Usually, the harm is institutionalized narcissistic isolation. “Don’t talk to others, focus only on me me me. And pay me money.” Promises of peace from the anxiety this creates are put off to the afterlife.
Dealing with put-offs is called assertiveness.
Every religionist I have known hated assertiveness.

I was asked not to return to the Anglican Church.
I was asked not to return to the United Church of Canada.
Tibetan Buddhists stopped taking my emails
I was asked not to return to the Saraswati order of monks ashram
12 step programs took out a contract on me

Assertiveness and evidence-based psychology for the treatment of the isolating narcissistic parentage consequence of anxiety, since birth, was cited as the cause.

Talking to strangers and asking for what you want is frowned upon.

Woman, wilt thou sleep with me?
A time-honoured question used by sailors the world over.

I was lonely, I just wanted to meet some nice people, that didn’t drink to have fun and enjoyed art and music. And to sleep with the available adult females that would like to join me as well, naturally. Communication Companionship and Sex, AKA: the basics of life.

Recently a YouTube psychologist asked a very good question: If they were that easy to lose were they worth trying to keep?