Life must be easy, without discomfort or inconvenience.

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Currently half my body is recovering from being paralyzed 7 years ago

Currently I am recovering from an unprovoked attack by a street person that broke my hip and my elbow.

I live in hospital on a recovery ward where I am dependant on people who are fallible and suffer like all humans from the 3 major musts.

Currently I suffer from this one:

Life must be easy, without discomfort or inconvenience.

Summary

Inflexible and unrealistic

Over-estimates one's right to a trouble-free life

Under-estimates one's ability to cope with adversity

Non-accepting of life's vagaries

Sub-beliefs

Things must go the way I want them to go.

I need what I want.

It's awful if I don't get what I want.

I must constantly worry about life's predicaments.

I must control, avoid or change life's predicaments.

I must make myself upset over life's predicaments.

Making myself upset gives me the power to control, avoid or change life's predicaments.

I must avoid, rather than face and deal with, life's difficulties and responsibilities.

I must not be inconvenienced or made uncomfortable.

I cannot discipline myself.

I can't stand the present pain that is necessary for future gain.

It must be easy to change things that I don't like.

Difficulties must not exist.

I am powerless to change my circumstances.

Any effort to change my circumstances is pointless because it is doomed to fail.

Justice, fairness, equality, democracy and other "right" values must prevail.

I can't stand it when my values are trodden on.

All problems must have a perfect solution.

The perfect solution to all problems must be found.

It's awful if a perfect solution can't be found to my problems (or those of people I care about).

I must not die prematurely.

I should be able to live forever.

It's terrible that I will one day die and no longer exist.

It's terrible that people I love will one day die and no longer exist.

My life must have meaning and purpose.

a. If I can't create meaning or purpose for myself, the universe or something supernatural must provide it for me.

I must not experience depression, rage or anxiety.

I must not have psychological problems.

I must not be institutionalized.

I couldn't stand to be institutionalized.

I could never recover if I went "crazy."

Emotional Consequences

Low frustration tolerance

Self-pity

Depression

Discomfort anxiety

Behavioral Consequences

Procrastination

Shirking

Drug and alcohol abuse

Overindulgence in "feel good" behaviors (e.g., overeating)

OK!

Is there any evidence that I can’t stand this?

No.

Saying that I can’t stand this means that I will die from this…Am I dead?

No.

I’ll figure it out.

I have always figured it out.

I am figuring it out.

So I will figure it out.

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