Life must be easy, without discomfort or inconvenience.
Currently half my body is recovering from being paralyzed 7 years ago
Currently I am recovering from an unprovoked attack by a street person that broke my hip and my elbow.
I live in hospital on a recovery ward where I am dependant on people who are fallible and suffer like all humans from the 3 major musts.
Currently I suffer from this one:
Life must be easy, without discomfort or inconvenience.
Summary
Inflexible and unrealistic
Over-estimates one's right to a trouble-free life
Under-estimates one's ability to cope with adversity
Non-accepting of life's vagaries
Sub-beliefs
Things must go the way I want them to go.
I need what I want.
It's awful if I don't get what I want.
I must constantly worry about life's predicaments.
I must control, avoid or change life's predicaments.
I must make myself upset over life's predicaments.
Making myself upset gives me the power to control, avoid or change life's predicaments.
I must avoid, rather than face and deal with, life's difficulties and responsibilities.
I must not be inconvenienced or made uncomfortable.
I cannot discipline myself.
I can't stand the present pain that is necessary for future gain.
It must be easy to change things that I don't like.
Difficulties must not exist.
I am powerless to change my circumstances.
Any effort to change my circumstances is pointless because it is doomed to fail.
Justice, fairness, equality, democracy and other "right" values must prevail.
I can't stand it when my values are trodden on.
All problems must have a perfect solution.
The perfect solution to all problems must be found.
It's awful if a perfect solution can't be found to my problems (or those of people I care about).
I must not die prematurely.
I should be able to live forever.
It's terrible that I will one day die and no longer exist.
It's terrible that people I love will one day die and no longer exist.
My life must have meaning and purpose.
a. If I can't create meaning or purpose for myself, the universe or something supernatural must provide it for me.
I must not experience depression, rage or anxiety.
I must not have psychological problems.
I must not be institutionalized.
I couldn't stand to be institutionalized.
I could never recover if I went "crazy."
Emotional Consequences
Low frustration tolerance
Self-pity
Depression
Discomfort anxiety
Behavioral Consequences
Procrastination
Shirking
Drug and alcohol abuse
Overindulgence in "feel good" behaviors (e.g., overeating)
OK!
Is there any evidence that I can’t stand this?
No.
Saying that I can’t stand this means that I will die from this…Am I dead?
No.
I’ll figure it out.
I have always figured it out.
I am figuring it out.
So I will figure it out.
